Six simple steps that will increase your confidence and drive you toward the life you deserve!
I am sure everyone will agree that you cannot achieve much in life without a good deal of self confidence. A state of inner confidence is only achieved through a balanced mixture of high self-esteem, realistic belief in yourself, a good measure of self-respect and an accurate positive self-image.
“Confidence comes from all the many hours and days and weeks you spent investing and working on yourself from the inside, out.”
The way you feel about yourself, how you see yourself and believe others see you, is a key issue in how you live your life. It is the foundation upon which you build your successes and the shaky ground on which your failures occur. By developing your self-confidence and belief in your own innate abilities you will be enable to recognise and take advantage of more of the opportunities that are presented to you but until now have gone unnoticed.
You will also have the strength and inner belief that is essential in overcoming the inevitable pitfalls and obstacles that life throws at you. By developing this aspect of your personality you can achieve, what may appear now to be, impossible goals.
“Confidence. If you have it, you can make anything look good. ”– Diane Von Furstenberg
For each time you put your new-found confidence to the test and discover that you are a winner, you will strengthen it immeasurably and move forward in your own personal development a greater speed than you can imagine.
Your belief in yourself will grow with each new challenge until you begin to see challenges, not only through the eyes of a person who believes in themselves but also, as someone who knows they can achieve anything – because you begin to see yourself as a person who has the confidence in their abilities to find a way to do it!
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When Hannibal told his generals he wanted to cross the Alps, with about 38,000 infantry, 8,000 cavalry, and 37 war elephants, to reach Italy and attack Rome the replies were unanimous, “It could not be done!”. Hannibal’s reply to this is now the now famous quote, “We will find a way or we will make one!” Such was the confidence he had in his own abilities.
Here are a few key points to follow that will help you to develop a similar level of self-confidence:
Stop berating and judging yourself so harshly. There are numerous people in the universe who would jump at the chance to do that for you. So be kind to yourself and recognize that your mishaps are merely life learning opportunities.
“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result but the cause, of fear.”– Norman Vincent Peale
Remember, your words have power. They direct your thinking. When you speak in a certain way you begin to formulate ideas and beliefs which are in harmony with the words you are using.
These beliefs can have a major impact on the actions you take and the way you conduct yourself throughout your life. So be purposeful in choosing words that uplift you, encourage you, and strengthen you, and execute some patience and understanding toward yourself when you make a mistake. Value what you have learned from your experiences, hold on to the lessons and move forward.
Seek out the company of people you want to emulate. Look for self-confident people to mirror. Watch the way the walk and how they talk. Put yourself in positive environments as much as you can.
Your environment and the people around you dramatically affect your level of confidence whether you realize it or not. Immerse yourself with people who build you up but that are honest and forthright with you. These are the type of people who (have your best interest at heart) and will show you where you can improve while also reinforcing that you can do it and that the strides you have made thus far are great. They can help you work on your faults while praising you with each step forward you make.
Negative people on the other hand, only pull you down and should be avoided. If someone tells you often enough that you can't do something eventually you will begin to believe them and thus form a limiting belief about yourself. Such people are toxic and must be avoided at all costs.
Be a person who is true to their word. Take action when you vow to take action. Follow through on your plans even if it initially looks like there is no way forward.
There will be times when you may need to alter the route to achieving your goals and plans but always stay true to your vision (never touch your vision). Other options or opportunities will present themselves.
If you give up you will seriously damage your confidence! A key point to remember is that there is no such thing as failure – you only fail when you quit! If you keep on pressing forward, trying different approaches, and staying steadfast to your ideals, you will ultimately succeed.
The knock-on effect is that the confidence you have within yourself will grow and you will also have the added knowledge of what not to do. in life, failure is your greatest teacher but only if you learn from it and utilize the lessons you've learned!
Feel the fear and do it anyway! If you stand up and face the thing that scares you the most and do it anyway, most often the fear disappears.
Doing this will prove to your subconscious mind that nothing bad occurred from taking that action. For example, you will find that talking to that person didn't make you stop breathing or giving a lecture didn't make you die, or walking across the bridge wasn’t life-threatening etc.
Maintain a journal of all your achievements no matter how small and don‘t let others ridicule you for it. I know of a person who was terrified of balloons. Now to you or me this sounds ridiculous but to him it was as frightening as facing a certain death. You know what your fear is!
Many times in life we fail to acknowledge the progress we are making simply because ‘we can't see the forest for the trees'. We get caught up in the big picture and don’t see the smaller gains that are actually getting us closer to achieving our goal.
Think of a time when you met someone you hadn't seen in years. Do you remember noticing how much they had changed? You could see it yet to their family, close friends, and people who see them every day the changes would have been almost imperceptible!
Take the time to write down every little gain you make. Soon you will be able to read back over it and really see just how far you have come. Write down the fears you faced, how you faced them, and the obstacles you overcame. Explain how you felt before and how you felt after. This will help keep you motivated in times of internal struggle and show you just how far you have come in your journey to becoming more self-confident.
Finally when you go to bed at night give your mind permission to think of all the achievements you had made during the day, week, and month. No matter how small these achievements may seem, give yourself credit for all of them.
Upon waking in the morning visualize yourself for 5 or 10 minutes beaming with joy and confidence as the day unfolds and you will literally set yourself up for a successful day and an incredible life!
If you’re ready to get to work on building your own self confidence go ahead and schedule your discovery call with me, today!
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Victoria Parham (VP) is a woman of compassion, vision, faith, and purpose, she believes in meeting people where they are in their lives and offers a no-nonsense approach in her message, training, and coaching style.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
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