Persistence can really off. In all kinds of circumstances, you have nothing to lose by trying again and everything to gain if you're successful. Consider the following, have you ever been turned down for a job that you really wanted? Then apply again!
Each time you apply you will increase the odds in your favor and the worst thing that can happen is that you potentially waste a little time… no biggie!
In other words, then, there is no reason not to keep going after your dreams. Even if you're 50 years old, you can still go after your goals and dreams.
“You’re not obligated to win. You’re obligated to keep trying to do the best you can every day.” Marina Wright Edelman Click To TweetBut often we don't. Instead, we try once, maybe twice, and then we give up.
Why? One of the big reasons might surprise you…
The Biggest Challenge to Persistence: Politeness
One of the oddest reasons that people do anything is to be polite. This is why when someone gets in our face and is clearly about to tell you about yourself, we will give them the benefit of the doubt. It's also why we won't ask that contact to arrange an introduction for us in order to land that dream job or a first major client.
In the first scenario, we don't want to be rude by judging someone too harshly for their obnoxious behavior. In the second scenario, we don't want to appear overzealous or desperate.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated” – Maya Angelou Click To TweetWhile that might seem logical, the thing to remember is that effectively you are letting your politeness get in the way of serious life changes. In the first case, your manners are potentially going to convey a message of timidness. In the latter, you risk saying goodbye to an amazing career or business opportunity that could change your life, and all because you don't want to speak up.
Politeness is great when it's a matter of holding open doors but if you're putting your manners before respect or before some positive life-changing opportunities, then it's time to step up your communication game.
When it comes to getting ahead in life sometimes you need to be a little uncomfortable and you need to be intentionally persistent.
Sure, it might be irritating, but that contact will get over it and if it means that you end up landing your dream job or client, then will you really lose sleep over the fact that you sent three e-mails? Especially bearing in mind that you might need persistence in order to stand out.
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Victoria Parham (VP) is a woman of compassion, vision, faith, and purpose, she believes in meeting people where they are in their lives and offers a no-nonsense approach in her message, training, and coaching style.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
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