Chances are you’ve heard the term toxic people or toxic situations. Generally speaking, these terms refer to people or situations that are highly dysfunctional or even dangerous.
Toxic situations are hotbeds for strife, discord, and usually driven by people with very little self-awareness.
We are always making an impact wherever we go. How we show up in any given situation is going to affect the atmosphere, the community, and the energy among the people who are also involved.
Likewise, we are always encountering other people affecting the atmosphere, the community, and the energy. While we can’t control others, we certainly don’t have to be subjected to toxicity if it is part of the situation.
Toxicity can be Destructive
Toxic situations are based on negativity and they are destructive. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that something doesn’t feel right; however, sometimes it takes a while for it to become clear that a situation is more than just odd – it’s toxic.
Below are some examples of where toxic situations can occur:
- Friendships
- Marriages or family relationships
- Work environments
- Organizations or clubs
6 Clues to Recognize that a Situation is Toxic
- One or more people in your circle are always at odds with others.
- Rational attempts to defuse hostility or confusion are spun out of context.
- One or more of the group is passive-aggressive.
- There is a lot of splitting people against one another.
- You routinely feel emotionally drained.
- The mood is generally somber, too serious, or depressing.
“It’s amazing how quickly things can turn around when you remove toxic people from your life.” — Robert Tew
Recognizing a situation is toxic takes time. Usually, people without specialized training don’t recognize the signs immediately.
The situation may feel confusing and the natural tendency to help, fix a situation, or appease the toxic people seems like a normal course of action.
“Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself.” – Hussein Nishah
Truly toxic situations require professional intervention to stop the dysfunction, heal the damage, and move forward.
The best thing a healthy person can do to be safe is to leave a toxic situation before irreparable damage is done.
“Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don’t hesitate. Fumigate.” ― Mandy Hale
Learning how to manage toxic situations takes time and specialized training. If you find yourself wondering if you are in a toxic situation, do your best to assess what’s happening and create an exit plan as soon as possible.
Staying too long or trying to be a savior will only cause more pain. Unless the person or organization is open to change, there likely won’t be an end to the toxicity any time soon. Be wise and minimize your exposure.
Victoria Parham (VP) is a woman of compassion, vision, faith, and purpose, she believes in meeting people where they are in their lives and offers a no-nonsense approach in her message, training, and coaching style.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
Outspoken, wise, direct, thoughtful, and sometimes provocative, her message is always with love and respect. Victoria knows from her own experiences that we all have the power within us to make decisions and choices that can lead to living an authentic life that is enriching, filled with purpose, personal satisfaction, on-going growth, joy, and gratitude.Victoria believes that when we discover who we truly are, only then can we become our most authentic selves.
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